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How to (finally) be magnetic af. Join The 21 Day Confidence Love Challenge here: ➡️ https://www.confidencelovechallenge.com/
00:00 Intro
01:11 What is Vulnerability?
02:38 How Vulnerabiltiy changed my life
07:30 Vulnerabiltiy is a superpower
10:55 How being the real you will change your life
13:40 How to be vulnerable
17:33 Vulnerability is the new sexy
19:05 Express the real you
20:48 Join the challenge!
I believe that vulnerability is literally the most attractive quality, that is the most underrated quality right now in society, but one of the most refreshing qualities that someone can have to really attract someone that resonates with them, somebody that resonates at a deep level.
Here's the thing, right now in society, as you look around, there's so much surface level B.S. It's all surface level stuff.
It's people kind of dancing around the depths of who they are, that are kind of havin' small talk, small conversation, that are afraid to show who they really are because they're afraid of rejection or validation, and therefore, it's surface level relationships.
If you want to attract someone at a deep level, somebody with depth, somebody that you feel like you have a form of deep connection with, then the best thing you can actually do is to be more vulnerable.
Being vulnerable is the most attractive thing you can do, and the most attractive way of being. It has completely transformed my life, and it has attracted to me people that I really resonate with at a deep level.
Now, first off, you might be asking, what is vulnerability? Vulner-ability? The word vulner means wound, and the word ability is the ability to go into the wound, the ability to show
the aspects of yourself that you may normally not show because there's an afraid of being rejected.
And that's a lotta times what happens when we grow up. We go through conditioning growing up, where we're led to believe that we need people's approval and validation, and if we don't get it, then what we do is we believe we must change ourself and only show certain aspects of ourself, so that we can get that approval and validation.
So it's like that surface level stuff I'm talkin' about. And that sometimes also reverts to people that change themselves to make other people happy or to get other people's validation.
So it's like, "What kind of food do you like?" And they're like, "Oh, I like Chinese food." And you're like, "Yeah, me too, Chinese food's great." And it's kinda like this tuning to where it's like, if you were to actually like not like Chinese food or something, you'd be afraid to share that.
You'd be afraid to share that just because, oh, what if they reject? What they're offended by it? Does it mean I'm racist? Does it mean I'm prejudiced or something? There's all these fears that come up with just expressing something, that social conditioning wise, there may be some type of fear there because you wanna fit within a little box.
Now, let's also look at this. Now, for me, the way this played out in my life and the way this completely transformed my life, is a few years ago, and even now at certain levels, there's levels to this, to where I'm becoming more and more vulnerable to where I express, as things come up in the moment, how I feel.
Now, this doesn't mean, by the way, vulnerability doesn't mean necessarily that you're going and you're crying and complaining to everyone, like, "You're not doing this thing I want you to do.
"Now, I'm being vulnerable." What it means is you express your emotions from like a grounded place, so if somebody does something that makes you feel a certain way, instead of like bottling it up and suppressing it, you're able to actually express it.
The vulnerability in my own life, the way this played out is back like three years ago, back in like 2020, I was really going through this phase of shedding the nice guy people-pleaser persona.
Where I realized that there were times I would hold myself back from being vulnerable, from expressing the real me, for setting boundaries with people that it felt like the energy balance was off.
And I would realize that in my dating relationships, when I would date women, it was like there was, I would start to like get to know them, and then there was like I would kind of change myself because there was like a desire for their validation or approval.
And I realized eventually just how inauthentic it was, and then secondly, how it would like actually depolarize the sexual polarity because I was changing myself to make someone else happy.
There were times I remember. One of my past girlfriends, actually, there was a moment when I was shedding this, where I decided, you know what, I'm not gonna play into this, and I'm just gonna be the real me.
Because this person that was coming was like publicly known as like a vegan, somebody that like doesn't eat meat, or is very like, just eats certain foods. Vvz5vFaMUzU |